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#1026770 - 11/03/04 10:56 AM
Re: so frustrated
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Registered: 10/29/04
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Loc: Maryland
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First of all, everyone needs to stop posting topics on which I feel compelled to answer!
My first semester in college was spent as an astronomy major. While I found it fascinating, I quickly realized that I wasn't smart enough to keep up with the real scientists. So, when choosing what to switch my major to, I was seriously considering going into music. Of course, my parents advised me to find something more traditional/practical in order to get a more stable/steady job, make money, etc., and keep music as a hobby. I took their advice.
Lo these many years later, I have a family, decent job, blah blah, but wish I had majored in music. Specifically, I should have majored in music education and gotten a job as a school instrumental music teacher. I wouldn't get rich (but I'm not rich now anyway) and wouldn't live the "cooler" lifestyle of a performing musician, but it would be steady income, fairly normal hours, summers off to spend with my kids or to work on some music projects, etc. And I'd be intimately involved with music every day. Instead, I'm now trying to smush in some practice time every day in the hopes that, when I finally retire, I'll be skilled enough to pursue music on a more serious basis.
If I had "it" to do all over again, that would be the biggest thing I'd change. And when it comes time for me to advise my kids on education/career issues, I will tell them to seriously consider pursuing their passions even if it's not the typical or safest route.
It boils down to making a deeply personal decision based on a lot of factors.
Mark (who's going to try really hard to keep his mouth/computer keyboard shut)
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#1026771 - 11/03/04 11:39 AM
Re: so frustrated
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Registered: 11/03/04
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Loc: Ohio
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Mark, that's very interesting to me! My husband DID follow his passion and taught music and absolutely hated it! The kids were not nearly as passionate about it as he was and it was quite frustrating. He finally took on a business career and is happily singing with the local opera, our church choir and a barbershop group, all for fun. I was discouraged from going into music by my band director step-father and like you, I regret it most every day and often wish I had made it a career and wonder what it would be like to be a band director and keep music an integral part of my daily life. Most musicians I know who have made music their career wish they had kept it a hobby. It's a tough call!! Basically, don't have any regrets. You may not have liked be a full time musician either. To me it's like, if I lived in Florida, where would I vacation?  I understand though. I feel exactly the same way!
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#1026772 - 11/03/04 01:42 PM
Re: so frustrated
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Registered: 10/29/04
Posts: 2593
Loc: Maryland
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I suppose the grass is always greener...however, I would have preferred to have given music a try first and then, if I didn't like it, could have found something else. This would have been much easier when I was younger. Now, there's no realistic way of going from regular job to music.
Oh well. I guess music will just be a serious hobby.
If you lived in Florida, maybe you'd vacation in Ohio.
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#1026773 - 11/03/04 01:54 PM
Re: so frustrated
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Registered: 09/16/04
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Here's my Old Lady Retrospective Reflection: Music school isn't always the best place for people who love music.
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#1026775 - 11/03/04 06:14 PM
Re: so frustrated
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Registered: 02/20/04
Posts: 643
Loc: Plano, Texas
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Pootie, what I would suggest is to sit down at the computer and open up Excel. On the top line type out the days of the week. On the vertical axis type out half hour increments equal to the amount of waking hours you have during a normal day. Next, type in what you are doing each day and when. See if there is a consistent spot that shows up every day or so and type in "play piano". As the Nike commercials says, "Just Do It." As far as choosing a career, if I were a super talented musician who could easily get work playing or teaching, I think I would go for the music degree. I used to work with an manager who had a degree in music(opera singer), but worked in optics to pay the bills. Having a degree is a major point for most employers. It's obviously helpful to have a degree related to your field, but not always a prerequisite. Follow your heart, your young and have many years to decide to do something different if you want. Jon
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