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#1775937 - 10/23/11 10:11 PM difficult 7 year old student
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I teach a 7 year old boy (or TRY to!) who is driving me crazy. His mum has agreed he has a difficult personality and told me I can "do whatever I usually do with children like that and she won't judge me harshly" but I actually have no idea what to do with him!

The family in general is hard work. The mum has 4 kids 9 and under including a newborn, so I think piano practice is the last thing on her mind. Consequently each week they may have practiced once but often haven't practiced at all. That is annoying enough, but then the 7 year old won't listen to me at all. Unlike a lot of kids who doubt there abilities, this boy thinks piano is "easy" and refuses to break things down into smaller parts to learn how to do them properly. There are always giant battles of the wills to get him to play one hand at a time, to play slowly, or to isolate a few bars. Instead he likes to ALWAYS start at the beginning at a speed he isn't capable of at all, get to the hard part, then go back to the start again. So say he has a problem with the third bar, he'll play the first 2 bars 10 times in a row and not even touch the 3rd bar. If I say "I think we need to look at the 3rd bar by itself to make sure you get it next time" he'll go "no no no I've got it now, I've got it" then plays the first 2 bars again another bunch of times.

Last week in a 45 minute lesson we only got to look at 2 level 2A Piano Adventures pieces, and they were 2 of the EASIER pieces in that book. That's how much time was wasted. And no theory or anything else. If he'd only do what I ask him to do we could get through 4 or 5 plus some theory.


One of the most frustrating things about teaching him is that he is VERY capable. He mentioned that he liked Ode to Joy and so I showed him a youtube clip of an orchestra playing Beethovens 9th and he loved it and the next week had a whole stack of facts lined up for me about Beethovens life including how old he was when he died and that he never completed his 10th symphony. He's got ability, just needs to let me show him how to apply it!
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#1775957 - 10/23/11 10:59 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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Do you put the piano fallboard down when he begins not listening to you? Do you use colorful analogies such as 'If a polar bear kept walking across thin ice and every time the ice broke and fell through ... and he kept on trying to walk across that ice, hoping one day the thin ice would support him, do you think it is smart for the polar bear to do so?"

He'll prob say no.

Then suggest to him that he is the polar bear and the thin ice is trying to play things too quickly hands together all the time.

Do you have his parents sit in on the lessons to help correct his behavior?

Do you need the student? You could dismiss him from your studio...

Do you totally cover up the beginning of the piece so he can't see the notes? If he tries to play from memory, use tip 1 above.

Do you play along with him to set the tempo?

Do you make a game out of it? "Ok, we're going to play a FUN GAME today!!! Wooooohooooo!!! Now, the game is called .... 'play like a turtle' , and if you do it correctly , you'll get a special treat at the end of the lesson.

He'll prob give you a funny look like ' what's she on ' ... but that's ok, kids like entertaining characters even if they're silly.

I mean, really, you gotta get creative here. There are tons of things you could try out that might work.
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#1776092 - 10/24/11 08:17 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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I've taught kids like this. You have my sympathy. They suck the joy out of teaching. It sounds to me like the parent won't be much help. He/she has probably grown weary of trying. I have a child in my children's choir who has Aspergers. His mom is like that - accepting of whatever I do with the child, but a bit at her wits end. She appreciates me asking, though, what works with him, what has worked in the past, what hasn't. So even if your student's mom doesn't intervene, she might be able to offer guidance that way.

I have an older student who seems to have some oppositional defiance, and she can be trying at times. I'm seeing progress, though. It's just slow.

After parenting 3 kids and 25 foster kids, I have little patience (or time) for attitude or blatant disobedience. I am just blunt. (Not loud or especially angry, I stay gentle.) What I say depends on the moment. It might be, "I'm not going to teach you if you aren't willing to learn from me." It might be, "I sense that you are used to being in charge, but that is not the way it works here." Or, "I am going to tell you something, and you are going to do it. You are not going to argue, disobey, or have any kind of discussion about it. Do you understand?" Sometimes, "I am the teacher, you are the kid. I teach, you listen." Sometimes it is, "Stop. Now." I would even be prepared to get up and walk out of the room, and tell them to come get me when they were ready to listen.

Once, I told a kid, "Ya know, I get paid the same amount whether we do anything or not. If you refuse to listen to me, how 'bout you just come and bang around on my piano, and I'll go do something else, and your mom can pay me for babysitting. Right now I am just wasting my time."

I am not mean or grumpy as a rule, so my firmness usually comes as a shock. But I have also had times when I can handle the situation with more humor. Sometimes I'll ask a kid to stand up next to me. Then I take them by the shoulders and turn them around two or three times. When I'm done spinning them, I tell them, "We had too many problems. It was time to reboot. Let's try again, and see if this time you can....." They love it.

I also have two stuffed animals on my piano (sitting behind the music stand, peering through) - intended for younger students, but my older students like them, too. One is a lion with very large eyes, and his name is Seymour (See More) and the other is a rabbit with very large ears, and his name is Heary Potter. When students aren't watching or listening, all I have to do is touch the offended animal.

I have kept a report card of their progress - including things like how much they seem to be practicing, how cooperative they are at lessons, whether or not they seem to be learning what I teach - in full view of them. I let them know that I will use this to make a decision over Christmas if I think they should continue with piano, or if I should talk to their mom about finding something else for them to do. They are very interested in what I write on their page.

These are just random ideas, but sometimes that's what it takes - a slightly different or new approach. I wish you luck.
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#1776101 - 10/24/11 08:28 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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My last-resort strategy for difficult younger students is timing pieces (not terrribly musical I know but it works in the short term!). The student's "goal" is to beat his/her best time for that piece - obviously you need to insist that it is played (sometimes remotely) in time and with reasonably good technique. It is amazing to see how students that despise repeating pieces will happily play the same piece over and over again if they perceive that they have a concrete goal to work towards...
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#1776111 - 10/24/11 08:58 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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I agree with Lollipop. You have to be firm. A child with 4 young siblings often gets lost in the shuffle and may not feel loved so he acts out to get attention (squeaky wheel gets the grease). He may also live a very chaotic life, and children love routine. By giving him strict discipline and what may seem like harsh words are exactly what he needs though. Children actually like discipline (not abuse, mind you) and when they don't get it, they become a terror to everyone around them.

Tell your student when he walks in the door that his lessons are going to be very different from now on. As soon as he gets in, he is to walk to the piano and take his books out of his bag and place them on the piano, ready to play (or whatever routine you want him to do). Chances are he won't do it and will purposely try to disobey in some way. When he does this have him take his books and walk back to the front door and try again, and you KEEP doing this until he gets it right. Even if it takes the entire lesson. Then you move on to the next task, and treat it the same way. Until he does exactly what you say, you will not move on, and be perfectly fine with that. In a battle of wills, you won't accomplish much piano, but you will establish that you care about him and that he has your full attention thus there is no need for him to act out. But eventually once he can feel secure in this routine, he will begin to learn.

I wouldn't do much about the practicing part for now. Once you get him to follow your routine then you might be able to address issues at home. Most likely he will want to practice more to please you, though, since you are giving him one-on-one attention.

Be careful that if you use "threats" like "If you don't do this we're going to sit here in silence for the rest of the lesson" be sure you are prepared to carry out that threat.

Something else that has worked with some children is that I have 4 beanie babies that I place at the left side of the piano next to the music stand. For each task the student completes without having to be told twice, I move the stuffed animal over to the right side of the stand. If at the end of the lesson all 4 move to the right, he gets to choose a prize. This visual reminder of how they are doing so far is very helpful, and can be something you can point to if he's really not obeying you. "Look, our lesson is over halfway through, and you've only moved one stuffed animal! Now think carefully about how you want to respond to this next task."

It is very difficult and you probably won't like having to be so hard-nosed, but it will really help him. Once he starts being more obedient and respectful, then you can continue the routine but you won't have to enforce things as much.
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#1776420 - 10/24/11 06:10 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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You really don't need to be so firm and cold.

A child like that probably doesn't get much attention or is treated badly at home. You can still be their friend, be playful with them and find fresh and exciting ways to keep their attention, like the beanie baby thing mentioned above. That is a fun and visual way to keep their attention.

I also like to do silly stuff where I purposefully ttaaaaallllllkkkk sooooooooooo slllooowwwwwllllyyyyyyy , the child is left bewildered because they aren't used to 'authority figures' acting like that. They want playfulness too - You can't zap them of all their personality by being too strict or cold.

I have never had a child that I haven't been able to work with in this way. I have never had to be strict or overly firm. Children will listen and follow if you find a way to capture their imagination and their attention.
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#1776428 - 10/24/11 06:18 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Lollipop]
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Originally Posted By: Lollipop
I've taught kids like this. You have my sympathy. They suck the joy out of teaching. It sounds to me like the parent won't be much help. He/she has probably grown weary of trying. I have a child in my children's choir who has Aspergers. His mom is like that - accepting of whatever I do with the child, but a bit at her wits end. She appreciates me asking, though, what works with him, what has worked in the past, what hasn't. So even if your student's mom doesn't intervene, she might be able to offer guidance that way.

I have an older student who seems to have some oppositional defiance, and she can be trying at times. I'm seeing progress, though. It's just slow.

After parenting 3 kids and 25 foster kids, I have little patience (or time) for attitude or blatant disobedience. I am just blunt. (Not loud or especially angry, I stay gentle.) What I say depends on the moment. It might be, "I'm not going to teach you if you aren't willing to learn from me." It might be, "I sense that you are used to being in charge, but that is not the way it works here." Or, "I am going to tell you something, and you are going to do it. You are not going to argue, disobey, or have any kind of discussion about it. Do you understand?" Sometimes, "I am the teacher, you are the kid. I teach, you listen." Sometimes it is, "Stop. Now." I would even be prepared to get up and walk out of the room, and tell them to come get me when they were ready to listen.

Once, I told a kid, "Ya know, I get paid the same amount whether we do anything or not. If you refuse to listen to me, how 'bout you just come and bang around on my piano, and I'll go do something else, and your mom can pay me for babysitting. Right now I am just wasting my time."

I am not mean or grumpy as a rule, so my firmness usually comes as a shock. But I have also had times when I can handle the situation with more humor. Sometimes I'll ask a kid to stand up next to me. Then I take them by the shoulders and turn them around two or three times. When I'm done spinning them, I tell them, "We had too many problems. It was time to reboot. Let's try again, and see if this time you can....." They love it.

I also have two stuffed animals on my piano (sitting behind the music stand, peering through) - intended for younger students, but my older students like them, too. One is a lion with very large eyes, and his name is Seymour (See More) and the other is a rabbit with very large ears, and his name is Heary Potter. When students aren't watching or listening, all I have to do is touch the offended animal.

I have kept a report card of their progress - including things like how much they seem to be practicing, how cooperative they are at lessons, whether or not they seem to be learning what I teach - in full view of them. I let them know that I will use this to make a decision over Christmas if I think they should continue with piano, or if I should talk to their mom about finding something else for them to do. They are very interested in what I write on their page.

These are just random ideas, but sometimes that's what it takes - a slightly different or new approach. I wish you luck.


This seems to be a pretty immature way of dealing with children - Getting up and leaving the room? Really?

Telling them you're the teacher and they are the kid? Talk about a surefire way to allow a child to continue thinking of themselves as a child and allowing them the mindset to think and act like a child.

Why not talk to them about being a young adult and explain to them in conversation with imagery, jokes, analogies - How his behavior makes you feel - And how you appreciate time with him and then move to something else to keep their attention? Children deserve respect too and I feel like most of the things you list in the way you speak are just disrespectful.

Do you realize how disrespectful that would be if someone did that to you? Said that to you? Why would you treat a child with such disrespect?

It sounds to me like you take their disobedience personally or you can't find the humor in small things like a child getting up from their bench who begins randomly talking about school. Sure it wastes time, but it's cute in a way - They're just being kids. Some of them need to release their energy and their personality in order to focus for the rest of the lesson.

You said it yourself - You get paid no matter what - Why take the disobedience so seriously? Why threaten them or speak down to them?

Also, bringing up money issues directly to them is just inappropriate in my opinion. They most likely don't understand what money is worth anyway - Children have everything paid for and they don't have to work for money. That seems like it's just a teacher being arrogant / on a power trip - or something else entirely.


Edited by Dustin Sanders (10/24/11 06:20 PM)
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#1776578 - 10/24/11 09:32 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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Obviously people have different approaches. But a child like this really needs and wants discipline. That doesn't mean you insult them or are mean. Discipline is you set rules for behavior and have consequences if they do not. Children feel safe when this is done properly, and they stop acting out. They end up loving lessons and piano. I'm not saying other ways don't work, but they don't work for me.
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#1776635 - 10/24/11 11:23 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Morodiene]
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Originally Posted By: Morodiene
Obviously people have different approaches. But a child like this really needs and wants discipline. That doesn't mean you insult them or are mean. Discipline is you set rules for behavior and have consequences if they do not. Children feel safe when this is done properly, and they stop acting out. They end up loving lessons and piano. I'm not saying other ways don't work, but they don't work for me.


Sure, but the OP didn't make this child out to be of the devil - He sounds reasonably normal to me - and the OP didn't seem to understand some of the easy and simple fixes to get a child to stop starting / stopping , playing too fast, etc.

I am also skeptical that over the top discipline makes a child 'feel safe'. Are there any studies you can point me too?
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#1776647 - 10/24/11 11:46 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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We have different opinions about what constitutes over the top.
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#1776667 - 10/25/11 12:45 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Minniemay]
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Originally Posted By: Minniemay
We have different opinions about what constitutes over the top.


Could you give me some that would constitute over the top?

Telling a child 'I'm the teacher - You're the kid. So you will listen to me and not argue.' is not over the top in your opinion?

I mean this isn't boot camp - It's a piano lesson.
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#1776712 - 10/25/11 02:44 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Dustin Sanders]
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Originally Posted By: Dustin Sanders
Telling a child 'I'm the teacher - You're the kid. So you will listen to me and not argue.' is not over the top in your opinion?

I don't find anything wrong with that.
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#1776788 - 10/25/11 09:07 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: AZNpiano]
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Originally Posted By: AZNpiano
Originally Posted By: Dustin Sanders
Telling a child 'I'm the teacher - You're the kid. So you will listen to me and not argue.' is not over the top in your opinion?

I don't find anything wrong with that.


Me neither, it's stating a fact and setting the tone for what the child can expect. It is not "over the top" in my opinion. Over the top would be cutting down the student with insults, angry tone of voice, sarcasm, and unreasonable demands. Telling the student what is expected of them and giving them a choice with consequences helps them learn that there are consequences in life. It is much better that they learn this now when the consequence is relatively painless compared to in adulthood where it could be life-changing (prison, burning bridges in your career, failed relationships, etc.).

You want resources? I just did a quick search and turned up this article: http://www.empoweringparents.com/How-to-Give-Kids-Consequences-That-Work.php#

Note where it says "Having structure and setting limits with kids teaches them that there are rewards and consequences in life."

Or this article, note the distinction they make between logical consequences and illogical ones.

http://www.whatsfordinner.net/articles/a...nsequences.html

No one here has suggested the illogical sort. A teacher has every right to not be treated poorly by her student, and the student needs to understand that people deserve to be respected as a human being. She shouldn't have to allow the child to walk all over her and control the lesson.
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#1776820 - 10/25/11 10:27 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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I was amazed and saddened by the responses to your challenge in this post. A more rigid and disciplined approach will not help but only contribute to the problem.

I think a 45 minute lesson is far too long for this student. Much better to have a short lesson and have the child say, "Is it over already?" Working through a lesson book in this goal oriented way isn't working either.

But you HAVE found something that does work and you should do more of it. You listened to Ode to Joy together and he loved it. He probably also loved that you listened with him. That was a wonderful teacher/student bonding time. And then on his own he came the next week with research he had done on Beethoven - truly a child who loves to learn and is interested. Tap into this!

Yes, instill a routine at lessons. Student comes in, sets up music then goes to nearby sofa to listen to music with teacher. Put his gathered information about composers into a notebook.

Then do some off the bench activities - flash cards or games on the floor.

Then go to the piano! Let him warm up with fun keyboard activities. Set parameters - he does something he likes at the keyboard then does something you like at the piano. Try letting him compose - play duets (Chopstix, Heart and Soul, Peter, Peter).

Kids love stickers. I have a Super Star Sticker Page in the front of their notebooks. I give stickers for whatever I want - not just for well played music. It's a great motivator for some young ones.

Just some ideas for you. Don't feel in a rush to have music reading and technique be the whole of the lesson. He's not ready for that. It's so important to have a good relationship with a child and be respectful and expect respect. If you don't enjoy working with 7 year olds than do find another teacher for this child. Music is a joy - teaching is a joy. If you turn this around and get through the first year, the next will be better and the one after that could be great.
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#1776875 - 10/25/11 12:09 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: trublues]
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Originally Posted By: trublues
I was amazed and saddened by the responses to your challenge in this post. A more rigid and disciplined approach will not help but only contribute to the problem.

I think a 45 minute lesson is far too long for this student. Much better to have a short lesson and have the child say, "Is it over already?" Working through a lesson book in this goal oriented way isn't working either.

But you HAVE found something that does work and you should do more of it. You listened to Ode to Joy together and he loved it. He probably also loved that you listened with him. That was a wonderful teacher/student bonding time. And then on his own he came the next week with research he had done on Beethoven - truly a child who loves to learn and is interested. Tap into this!

Yes, instill a routine at lessons. Student comes in, sets up music then goes to nearby sofa to listen to music with teacher. Put his gathered information about composers into a notebook.

Then do some off the bench activities - flash cards or games on the floor.

Then go to the piano! Let him warm up with fun keyboard activities. Set parameters - he does something he likes at the keyboard then does something you like at the piano. Try letting him compose - play duets (Chopstix, Heart and Soul, Peter, Peter).

Kids love stickers. I have a Super Star Sticker Page in the front of their notebooks. I give stickers for whatever I want - not just for well played music. It's a great motivator for some young ones.

Just some ideas for you. Don't feel in a rush to have music reading and technique be the whole of the lesson. He's not ready for that. It's so important to have a good relationship with a child and be respectful and expect respect. If you don't enjoy working with 7 year olds than do find another teacher for this child. Music is a joy - teaching is a joy. If you turn this around and get through the first year, the next will be better and the one after that could be great.



Ahhhh.....so refreshing to read...

Except a I have young boy who every time I offer him a motorcycle or dragon sticker he throws his hands up and exclaims "Ughhh!! I'm 7 years old already, I'm too old for stickers!" (Or something close to that - I keep offering him stickers just because I think his reaction is funny as heck!) smile
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#1776896 - 10/25/11 12:35 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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Just have to say it - my son was too old for stickers at 3.
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#1776905 - 10/25/11 12:57 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Morodiene]
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A consequence is a result from an action. From the article:
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For example, if your son sleeps late and doesn’t get up for school, the natural consequence is to go to bed earlier that night to get more sleep.

That is not a consequence. That is a decision the parent has made. If your son sleeps late and doesn't get up for school, then the consequence is that he has missed school, gets behind in his work, and has to struggle. The child's goal is to do well in school because he knows eventually it will lead to employment and the independence and self-sufficiency in life that this will bring. And yes, children can grasp that, and usually do.

So your child has slept in and missed school. What caused him to sleep in? How can you help him fix this problem, since he doesn't want to miss school? What causes can he find? The two of you may come up with the solution of going to bed earlier. Maybe a different waking up routine, or something pleasant to look forward to at breakfast time that will make it easier for him?

Otoh, what if the child wantsto miss school? Going to bed earlier will not fix the root of the problem. Why does he want to miss school? What problem lies behind that, and how do you fix it? Going to bed earlier is not a consequence or solution to wanting to miss school, and then missing it.

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#1776911 - 10/25/11 01:05 PM I have a suggest!!! [Re: ToriAnais]
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When I was a kid (between 7 and 13 years old), I hated practice all kind of excercises because they sound really boring, much of them don't have good rhythm or just was so simple and I never found a real reason to practice them and I leave the keyboard lessons.

I discovered that was needed practice some of the excercises when my skills for play some songs weren't enough blush however, that was when I decided play seriously, this was 2 years ago (actually I have 23 years old), but I found another way to practice it laugh I was so much lucky, because I begin with the appropriate songs, I always choosed songs with different excercises incluedes and here is the secret...!!! wink

I recovered the desire to play with some anime and video game songs grin you must try to ask to your student what kind of things would wish to play, ask him for his favorite videogame or his favorite disney movie or his favorite toon, All the children loves a song of this kind of things, then, show him a video where someone plays the song, or much better, play it for him and show him how it sounds in live, I bet he would be really impressed and he'll try to play it with the right speed wink

Finally he will discover that some parts need more practice and you can approuch the parts of the songs where you can find nice excercises to practice and it will sounds more familiar and he will love to play it, but you must be much smarter and approuch the parts of the songs he likes, I guess this could be function, because in my own experience it functioned with me wink

Believe me, for a child always will be more funny play things relationated with good memories that begins learning classic pieces unknown much of times for his ears smile

If he likes "The Legend Of Zelda" videogame I can recommend you this songs, much of them are short and are perfect for practice once and other and other time, and contains all kind of different excercises.

Have a nice practicing and try it, don't lose nothing laugh give me a feedback if this is useful for you, maybe one day I could try to give some lessons, but by now, I'll continue practicing my Yann Tiersen performances whome

Nice day!!!

-Ismael smile

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#1776934 - 10/25/11 01:41 PM Re: I have a suggest!!! [Re: ToriAnais]
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i like your suggestions.. i always ask my students what their favorite songs are on the radio or whatever they call it these days,.

Do you have any the YOU suggest particularly? do you have sheet music from you tube or something? i like creating my own exercises in that it gives the student a break from sightreading that can be very helpful in orienting themselves to the keyboard.

it would be awesome to find a published book of video game sheet music masquerading as exercises.. for me at least.
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#1776969 - 10/25/11 03:06 PM Re: I have a suggest!!! [Re: apple*]
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Originally Posted By: apple*
i like your suggestions.. i always ask my students what their favorite songs are on the radio or whatever they call it these days,.

Do you have any the YOU suggest particularly? do you have sheet music from you tube or something? i like creating my own exercises in that it gives the student a break from sightreading that can be very helpful in orienting themselves to the keyboard.

it would be awesome to find a published book of video game sheet music masquerading as exercises.. for me at least.


err find the super mario brothers theme song, it beats most exercises in terms of difficulty .... jumping sixths and thirds the entire time , teaches syncopation and IT'S FAST AS heck!!!
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#1776978 - 10/25/11 03:32 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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Originally Posted By: ToriAnais
There are always giant battles of the wills to get him to play one hand at a time, to play slowly, or to isolate a few bars. Instead he likes to ALWAYS start at the beginning at a speed he isn't capable of at all, get to the hard part, then go back to the start again. So say he has a problem with the third bar, he'll play the first 2 bars 10 times in a row and not even touch the 3rd bar. If I say "I think we need to look at the 3rd bar by itself to make sure you get it next time" he'll go "no no no I've got it now, I've got it" then plays the first 2 bars again another bunch of times.


My guess is that since he has prelabelled the pieces as "easy", it causes a lot of mental discomfort when he reaches a spot that he should 'obviously be able to play since it's so easy'. Maybe why he wants to avoid these. If you make things look more challenging (see following ideas), hopefully he'll lose the 'easy' mindblock and the problems it creates.

Mix it up, have him play the measures backwards (ie. you still play forward, but start at the last measure, working towards the first)

Or have him play random measures. If need be, make a copy of the piece, cut the measures out, then give them those to practice off of (keep his book at the studio for the time being). If he just goes home and puts the measures in order then plays through it as always, you could try giving him only every 2nd measure for one week, or only the measures that need work.

Alternatively, make a copy of the piece, and cut out the measures that he plays well. That's his practice copy. Once all the measures are gone, he can play from the book.

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#1776986 - 10/25/11 03:44 PM Anime and games sheet music!!! [Re: apple*]
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Hey apple!!!

In this moment I don't have my files with me (you know, I'm approuching the lunch hour for write in the forum ha )

But I have a full songbook about the Zelda's songs I mentioned and other anime sheet music, in fact, these songs are published in my youtube channel, they duration is between 1 and 2 minutes and are the videos where I recorded from the side angle, not the bottom angle laugh (in this time I didn't have the idea about how to record ha )

However, I got some files in this internet page

Ichigo's sheet music

The files are transcriptions uploaded by many people and are able to download and share wink

But when I arrive at home, I'll upload the songbook I mention and I can share it with you, while some of the songs I'm talking about are:

-Lost woods
-Zelda's lullaby
-Song of storms
-Song of healing
-Kakariko village
-And others...

I'm sure you can find so much funny excercises in this songs, and are very useful wink

I hope you can find useful it for you and how mention before, Super Mario Bros, theme is excellent, I think so much people find glad memories about this game and this theme laugh

Greetings!!!

-Ismael smile

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#1776988 - 10/25/11 03:54 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: keystring]
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Originally Posted By: keystring
A consequence is a result from an action. From the article:
Quote:
For example, if your son sleeps late and doesn’t get up for school, the natural consequence is to go to bed earlier that night to get more sleep.

That is not a consequence. That is a decision the parent has made. If your son sleeps late and doesn't get up for school, then the consequence is that he has missed school, gets behind in his work, and has to struggle. The child's goal is to do well in school because he knows eventually it will lead to employment and the independence and self-sufficiency in life that this will bring. And yes, children can grasp that, and usually do.

I think you meant that we *hope" the child's goal "is is to do well in school". That's exactly why making the child go to bed earlier is NOT a consequence. The CONSEQUENCE is, as you say, problems in school as the result of either being late or falling asleep in school.

Isn't it fun being ignored? You need to be argumentative and unreasonable, and then you will be heard in this forum. laugh
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#1777037 - 10/25/11 05:06 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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This sounds like a normal 7-year-old to me. PA level 2A is already introducing 8th notes, isn't it? I might find a non-Piano Adventures book that is slightly easier (but don't tell him!) and assign a lot of pieces he can learn quickly and find lots of good things that he is doing. I try to steer myself away from battles of will with children this age.

Will he sing in the lesson? Before he even starts to practice a piece, close the fallboard, and tap and chant the rhythm together. Then Tap and sing the words (you sing first so he can hear it and follow along), then tap and say the notes. THEN do "super-slow-motion-like-a-snail" practice together with him for some continuity.

Try playing "add a note" or use "backwards practice."

Next student is coming in... gotta go! smile Great thread.
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#1777115 - 10/25/11 06:56 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Gary D.]
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Originally Posted By: Gary D.
Originally Posted By: keystring
A consequence is a result from an action. From the article:
Quote:
For example, if your son sleeps late and doesn’t get up for school, the natural consequence is to go to bed earlier that night to get more sleep.

That is not a consequence. That is a decision the parent has made. If your son sleeps late and doesn't get up for school, then the consequence is that he has missed school, gets behind in his work, and has to struggle. The child's goal is to do well in school because he knows eventually it will lead to employment and the independence and self-sufficiency in life that this will bring. And yes, children can grasp that, and usually do.

I think you meant that we *hope" the child's goal "is is to do well in school". That's exactly why making the child go to bed earlier is NOT a consequence. The CONSEQUENCE is, as you say, problems in school as the result of either being late or falling asleep in school.

Isn't it fun being ignored? You need to be argumentative and unreasonable, and then you will be heard in this forum. laugh


Keystring and Gary, I agree that is not a consequence. Dustin had asked for any "proof" that the tactic of discipline or consequence existed. I just did a cursory search on google which anyone who wants to really find out something can do. wink

However, for a student who is disobedient in the lesson, having a consequence that is imposed and told ahead of time, then the child can choose to either follow the rule or choose the consequence. I have read several good books and articles on this (which are back in WI, otherwise I'd give them as references, and I don't recall the names), so this is nothing I just made up on the fly. I used it a lot in my Kindermusik classes to help manage the children, and the kids LOVED my class. Why people equate discipline with abuse (which IMO are polar opposites) I don't understand.
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#1777211 - 10/25/11 10:02 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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www.Mariopiano.com has lots of Mario music including things like the power up sound and the time warning. These are fun, very short little etudes. I like the underworld theme for octaves.
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#1777223 - 10/25/11 10:26 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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I'm gonna take the middle of the road position on this one. In general, I believe that it is best to try to use friendlier tactics most of the time. However, there are times when adults must set boundaries. IMO when youngsters attempt to push these boundaries, the best approach is to firmly stand your ground. If they push, then the answer is "no". If they keep pushing then the answer is "I love you, but, no."
Don't get upset, state your boundaries and stick to them.
After they acquiesce, if you want to move the boundary back a little, you can.


Kids rise or fall to the level of what is expected of them.
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#1777248 - 10/25/11 11:36 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: AZNpiano]
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Originally Posted By: AZNpiano
Originally Posted By: Dustin Sanders
Telling a child 'I'm the teacher - You're the kid. So you will listen to me and not argue.' is not over the top in your opinion?

I don't find anything wrong with that.
Neither do I. There comes a point when things need to be stated exactly as they are. The student is the student, the teacher is the teacher. A reasonable amount of respect and obedience should be expected. Sometimes a child controls the situation simply because all the adults in their life so far have allowed them to and it is in their best interest for the cycle to be broken.
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#1777249 - 10/25/11 11:42 PM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: Monaco]
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Originally Posted By: Monaco
I'm gonna take the middle of the road position on this one. In general, I believe that it is best to try to use friendlier tactics most of the time. However, there are times when adults must set boundaries. IMO when youngsters attempt to push these boundaries, the best approach is to firmly stand your ground. If they push, then the answer is "no". If they keep pushing then the answer is "I love you, but, no."
Don't get upset, state your boundaries and stick to them.
After they acquiesce, if you want to move the boundary back a little, you can.


Kids rise or fall to the level of what is expected of them.
And the smile on their face when you tell them how proud you are of them when they do reach that next level is a wonderful sight.
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#1777267 - 10/26/11 12:30 AM Re: difficult 7 year old student [Re: ToriAnais]
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I have found that poor behavior in a child like this is largely due to his not having practiced. You need to get the mother on board, perhaps even better yet, the father. The child must practice five days per week.

Also, if bar three is really hard, then the piece is too hard. I'd back up and only play music for one hand at a time, with very few additional notes.

I'd shorten the lesson to half-hour, and omit theory.

But I need more details to assess this situation properly.


Edited by Candywoman (10/26/11 12:32 AM)

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