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That's a kind thought, J. Mark, but I doubt it!

Regards,

Yeah, I understand. To invoke Professor Higgins, single "and likely to remain so".

And yet... was Bassio's post a referendum on a nice young woman in his life? Was he asking for a bit of advice? We can hope.

It's nice being married to a non musician so I don't have to fight for time on my piano!
Kylie

I've got one single rule in this matter, if I'll ever marry it would be with someone I knew I would love for the rest of my life (and the next).

(This is probably why I'm not married )

I never thought that his occupation would be important as long as he is happy with it, but it would be very unlikely that I could ever fall in love with somebody who's not passionate about music.

Ragnhild

My husband doesn't play the piano or anything else for that matter.

In fact, this is about the only area where I have the upper hand on him. Although he is a scientist by training, he also reads very widely and knows an incredible amount about music, art, philosophy and literature. I am taking a broad-interest humanities degree and I have yet to study anything that he hasn't read something about (and has a strong opinion on). It is just so annoying sometimes when I am finding out something new and find that he already knows all about it! After 24 years with him, I should have got used to it, I suppose.

So me being able to play the piano and him not is a definite plus.

Alas no, my friend! I hoped it was the case, but unfortunately no.

And to answer BruceD's post: because I think we should have a fun thread every once in a while, don't you think?

I also wondered if anyone out there can stand the amount of "noise" generated by pianists while practicing Because if parents cannot stand their son/daughter practicing .. why should the wife/husband/fiancee/girlfriend stand it?

Hmm, Paris Hilton apparently knows how to play piano...

Mahlzeit- I didn't know there was a drinking game called piano!

For me, the answer would be "No."

I don't think I'd want to play second fiddle to a piano.

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Well, I've been married now for 10 years, but I'm glad my husband is not a musician. I was engaged to a guitarist and he was so critical of other musicians (myself included) that I quit piano and singing for a year! So I'm happy that my husband can give ma a genuine answer on how something sounds without being too critical or detailed about it. I know he's being honest and not trying to undermine me in any way, and his opinion gives me a good idea as to what a general public audience might think.

Alas no, my friend! I hoped it was the case, but unfortunately no.

And to answer BruceD's post: because I think we should have a fun thread every once in a while, don't you think?

I also wondered if anyone out there can stand the amount of "noise" generated by pianists while practicing Because if parents cannot stand their son/daughter practicing .. why should the wife/husband/fiancee/girlfriend stand it? [/b]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">We have a perfect solution for this: we remodeled my studio and put tons of insulation in every wall and the ceiling. Then my husband moved his Xbox360 upstairs, so when I practice, he plays. We can't hear each other...it's great!

It has actually been my great displeasure to meet so-called classical musicians who don't seem to have any interesting personality, even when it comes to classical music. For instance, I once ran into a doctorate of piano pedagogy who did not know what the Chopin Scherzi were.

I have been utterly floored by the sheer number of performers who apparently don't listen to much of any classical music. Why are they musicians? It isn't a lucrative field. Shouldn't these people be doing mathematics or engineering or something?

On that note, real artists tend to be people utterly alone with their craft, and have little room for outside relationships. I have certainly noticed this in myself - at my age of 18, it is useless to venture into anything serious or long term with my peers. Women in their 40s have stricken me as being far more attractive on a personal and emotional level than women my age.

As far as I am concerned, friends and supposed intimate partners are many times only fleeting images. Give me art and people who appreciate it, damn it!

-Colin

Colin,

Maybe your best post ever. (And that's a lot.) There's a great deal contained in those few words. But mostly, I identify with the notion that true artists are people utterly alone with their craft.

It's an important choice many people are faced with in their lives. Personally, I choose not to be alone with my craft. I enjoy the love and companionship of my wife, my children, my friends. And I sacrifice any real artistic ambition in favor of that. ... Not that I have any talent, but I humor myself that I made that choice.

Choose wisely, friend.

Colin said: "Give me art and people who appreciate it, damn it!"

And, Colin, I can't help but make the prediction that you will find them genuine and worthy as time goes by. You have a lot of offer in conversation, interesting subjects, love of music, searching for truth and revelations, too, I believe.

There is no reason who should not have the lifestyle you crave - just not overnight - it takes a while. And, people like this are entering your life all the time if you can get to know them and find your kinship.

Best!

Betty

if i can't practice i get quite agitated.

my kids love to hear me play.. they ask to sleep on the sofa so they can hear me practice while they sleep..

my husband times his day to nap and eat during my piano time if he is home

i make alot of noise. it certainly doesn't sound all that great.... at all. they love it .

-of course, i'm a great cook and they don't want me to go away

Im-possible matches:

. Same instrument: not advisable. Well... not for me.
. Two music teachers: no way... they will make very little money and will be forever unhappy.
. Man composer - woman singer: perfecto. They will cheat themselves all their f... lives.
. Man harpist - woman tuba player: a heavenly couple?

Make your match.

originally posted by Reaper978:


I'll tell you Colin, some women in their 40s would quite easily fall in love with you or Jason or Bassio or any of the very charming young men at the forum

Fun ?, yes. Wise ? , no !

The female tuba player/male harpist is probably the best suggestion so far...

Ragnhild

Ragnhild - I just found it interesting to note. Of course, there are multiples more of people any age that I could not stand to be with, but it seems as I go up the age range people really start to gain those excellent characteristics of trust, emotional stability, depth, and experience.

It helps me to understand myself a bit more.

With luck, you'll leapfrog your 20's.

I'd rather marry a good cook than another pianist...hey wait a minute... I am a good cook!

Jason:
I'd rather marry a good cook than another pianist...

Following is the start of the very first conversation I had with my future mother-in-law, in their sitting room, having arrived by train late on a Friday night after a long day at work in London, to spend the weekend in the country:

FM-I-L: "Where's Jackie?"

MB: "In the kitchen making me something to eat. I didn't even manage to eat lunch today."

FM-I-L: "Well, she is such a very good cook. Did you know that she makes lovely cakes and pastries!!!"

This was the start of a Mrs Bennett-esque "please marry my daughter" performance[1] that continued unabated until we left on the Sunday afternoon. It was nearly 20 years ago, but it still makes me smile[2] to remember it. She was of course absolutely correct, and said cakes and pastries have been the bane of my waistline ever since .

Michael B.
[1] Including "she plays the piano and violin so beautifully", etc.
[2] And Jackie cringe