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I do not know if I should share my store with you, but since I have been posting here before I thought I just might as well. December last year I bought a keyboard, just for fun, and enjoyed it very much. So much so, I bought myself a digital piano (P250) 6 weeks ago. A week after the piano arrived my girlfriend left me.

Now I'm not able to play that thing anymore. It is so much linked to the emotions of the splitup I just cant. Sometimes I sit and just play the tunes I know, but I have not been practising or learning new pieces. I still have good hopes of starting again somewhere in the future, but right now I just wished I never bought that thing.

Can anyone relate to this story ?

hey laurens,how u doing. did she get you into the piano? sorry bout the break up and the whole situation.

I had a hard time with my roomate about playing the piano over here he couldnt stand it when i played and i told him that an hour a day he go tusff himself... so i decided to buy a digital paino, at the same time he decided to move out.
my yamaha arrives a day after he leaves and i pretty didnt want to look at the thing because it reminded me of a petty fight with close friend.
but screw him, i love my piano and after a few weeks i've forgotten all about him.

take sometime to think about it, music is a gift,it's yours, no one else should have any influence on your relationship with it.
but if you dont feel like it then thats also cool.
most important thing is that you're doing what you want too.

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time, Laurens. Please just be very gentle and kind to yourself for a while. Don't push anything too hard. The world will come back into focus for you soon. Just read the forum whenever you can and it might help to inspire you again before too long.

Please continue to post and let us know how you're doing.

Salli

Laurens, I feel for you man. I wrote a song once called "If I had a dollar for every time a girl's left me behind", so I can relate.
You will find that the P250 will stay right there whether you caress it or not, and it will never leave you. You will have to do the breaking up and send it on it's way if you so choose. So let it set there until you are ready to play again. The piano probably had nothing to do with the girlfriends departure so you should try to disassociate that connection. You will find your fingers, and eventually, your girl.
Hang tough.
Mike

sorry to hear your story. but i guess that almost everyone have had some heartbreaking story some time in past if not currently. music can comfort you though, if you keep playing on your piano, and time will ease your pain if not now. by all means, let your piano be your friend and your listener...

Thank you all for your support. I do know time will heal all wounds, and things will get better even if it does not feel that way right now.

Maybe I should try to start with a new piece, which is totally unrelated to anything I played before.

Laurens, time does heal all wounds..

Be patient, you'll come back around again.

Sorry about your breakup Laurens, it happens to pretty much everyone. It's very hard to think clearly when you are in the thick of something traumatic in your life but it will pass. Just be patient, take things one day at a time and use this experience to learn more about yourself. Every relationship can teach us something about ourselves or about other people. Just focus on the positives in your life and the positive experiences you had with this girl. I'm sure you will find the joy in music again when the time is right for you.

~pianocliff

Sure I can relate.

Sell it and if you feel like playing in another 6 months or a year then buy another one. If I were you I would just work on cleaning my head out and this keyboard is just bringing back memories. Sure I can relate.

The piano has become very important to me. Hopefully it will again to you. Girls may come and go but music will last forever.

Laurens - I feel for you. When I broke up from a very long relationship I couldn't play for a month. After awhile, the strong feelings for music came back. They were so strong, I couldn't get enough of it.

Recently due to medical reasons, I ended up losing my music for 11 months. I wanted to play and practice the piano, but I was too weak, hands too confused, and too frustrated to get anything done worth snot. To me it was like some evil god had taken away the only thing that really means a lot to me. It as though this being was trying to rip my very soul out of me. This was more depressing than losing my girl friend!


So once music gets in your blood, it's like a liquor that will sooth the soul and feed the mind. It'll take a lot for you to give it up 100%

John

Laurens...sorry to hear things didn't work out, but look upon it as an opportunity rather than a loss. All that time and energy spent canoodling with your ex can now be channeled into practicing a new piece that YOU enjoy playing on your P250. And who knows? once you've mastered it you'll probably pull a better model than the last!! (shinier body work, nicer entertainment system, eager motor and bigger bumpers!!!)

Wombat! Thanks for making me smile . I remember a topic a while ago that listed pieces that attracted women ? Maybe I should try to find that list again...

Laurens

After my dog died unexpectedly I couldn't play piano for 6 months or so. When a friend broke up with a boyfriend who ate a lot of salads, she couldn't eat salads for a while without getting emotional. Rough spots in our lives - it's all part of life. Thank gosh we have all this wonderful music to soothe and uplift our spirits.

But..as pianocliff stated, it all will pass and you'll want to play again.

by the way, my mother-in-law is from Amsterdam!

Again, thank you all...

knorris, does she still live there? Somehow it sounds like a nice idea to have a mother-in-law, far away

Listen to the duet ray charles did with billy joel called "baby grand". It will help you realize what john from durango told you. Many girls will come and go, but your piano will always be there.

Laurens,

By the way, where in Holland are you? I lived in Den Hague for a year, quite a while ago. I spent a total of about 7 years living in Europe. I always tell people that, while Holland may not be the most beautiful country in Europe, it absolutely has the warmest, most friendly people of any country I've lived in. If you want to fall in love with Europe, live in The Netherlands first!

Salli

Laurens,

Yours reminded me of my a while back. On the positive side, this is part of our lives and we should learn from it good or bad, it will make you stronger and a better person.

Start going out and get together with friends or relatives.

Actually I agree the piano will be your best friends once you are emotionally ready to play again. Remember they are prenty of girls out there for you.

Laurens, can you maybe tackle a piece that your ex just couldn't stand?

Seriously, that is a bummer. If I were you, I'd give it some time and completely ignore the piano. I think fresh air, sunshine and movement are the best cures for a seriously bummer of a situation, and piano has none of those things.

Don't worry. You'll be back on the bench before you know it.