Our friend Apple

Posted by: Rich Galassini

Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:50 AM

Dear PW,

As many of you already know, our dear friend and #1 poster, Apple, lost her battle with her illness at 6:15 this morning.

I am starting this thread because I would like to do something in her memory and I believe that I am not alone here. Please add your thoughts and perhaps we can do something beautiful in her memory.

With love Apple,
Posted by: George K

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 10:50 AM

Rest in peace, Apple.

We are all less because you have left us, and heaven is a lot richer.

You've been a rock, and an inspiration to all of us for all these years.
Posted by: Piano World

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 11:14 AM

Thanks Rich,

A number of Apple's friends have posted in the Pianist Corner as that is where she
spent a good deal of her time, but it is a good idea to post here too as some people only
read the "Piano" forum.

This is the thread in the Corner...
http://www.pianoworld.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/2012683.html
Posted by: Rickster

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 11:37 AM

My sincere condolences to Apple and her family and friends.

She was a wonderful, sweet lady and was an inspiration to all who knew her.

She will be missed but never forgotten.

Rick
Posted by: Minnesota Marty

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 11:50 AM

Hi Rich,

I also feel that a memorial for Apple, from the membership at PW, would be most appropriate. She was an extrodinary member and a friend to all.

Are you thinking in terms of a scholarship or maybe a living memorial such as a tree? I'm sure that there will be many ideas brought forth.

Thank you for suggesting this idea.

With thoughts of Apple,
Posted by: Laurie R.

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 11:53 AM

As a new poster in PW, I didn't know Apple well, but always enjoyed her posts, which I thought were always appropriate and kind.

My sincerest sympathies to her family.

May the music she loved bring you peace.
Posted by: Robert 45

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 12:20 PM

This is very sad news indeed. I know that many here knew her personally and I offer my condolences to you all.

She was devoted to her music it seemed that she touched many hearts on this website. May her sweet memory live on in your hearts.

To her family and friends, my profound sympathy.

Robert.
Posted by: Dave Horne

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 12:28 PM

I'm sorry to hear she passed away. I don't believe I had much contact with her but from everything I hear she was a nice person.

My condolences to her friends and family.
Posted by: Woody-Woodruff

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 12:42 PM

So very sad. Condolences to her family, church and friends. A true loss.

Woody
Posted by: j&j

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 12:57 PM

My condolences and prayers go out to her family and friends. As one of the many PW friends Apple had in the Piano Forum and the Pianist Forum I will miss her informative, friendly, empathetic, and enjoyable posts. The world and music are less without her.
Posted by: Piano Girl RMG

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 12:59 PM

Apple was the ultimate Piano Girl. She loved music, she loved her job, she loved us.

I suggest each of us take a moment to play a song this evening in her memory. She'll hear us.
Posted by: Scott Schroeter

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 01:01 PM

Best wishes to her family. Celebrate her life. Rest in peace Apple.
Posted by: Ragdoll

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 01:03 PM

I didn't know Apple except through her posts here. I found her to be always helpful and encouraging. RIP Apple, I know the music is beautiful where you are at rest.
Posted by: Woody-Woodruff

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 01:14 PM

Frank, how about a final posting of her passing in the Coffee Room where she was the moderator? Are you able to open it for that?

Thanks,
Woody
Posted by: Kieran Wells

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 01:16 PM

I am very sorry to hear this. She will be missed by many people. I extend my best wishes and sympathy to her family.
Posted by: Steve Cohen

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 01:52 PM

She will be missed....

How about chipping in to give some deserving player a new piano in Apple's memory. I'd be willing to arrange to provide the piano at cost anywhere in the US and chip in $500.
Posted by: ShiroKuro

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 02:39 PM

Steve, that sounds like a wonderful idea, but it might be very hard to carry out in terms of logistics such as selecting a recipient.... Or alternatively, a school or a church might be the recipient?

Rich, I was thinking about a donation to a cancer research organization? Also, I think it's too soon, but in the next few days, her family may have some suggestions about how we could honor her memory.

Other members may have ideas as well?
Posted by: Steve Cohen

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 03:12 PM

I think we could find a recipient through teachers who post on the many Piano World forums.
Posted by: Annitenth

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 03:41 PM

I'm sorry to hear this sad news. She will be missed.
Posted by: Johan B

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 03:50 PM

I am so sorry to hear that she is not among us anymore.

I only know Apple from these forums. She always had good post, advices and comments. Hope she gets the best grand piano in heaven. She was a very good human with a heart.

Dear Apple......RIP.......

Johan B
Posted by: malkin

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 03:55 PM

Apple recently spoke fondly of the family of her students and their search for a piano. Maybe that would be an avenue for exploration.
Posted by: FarmGirl

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 05:15 PM

Malkin, I think it's a great idea. Even $10 from a person will be $6,000 if we get 600 people to sign up for it.
Posted by: ftp

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 05:31 PM

Apple touched so many people's lives in so many ways. She inspired me to keep writing about Noona and for that I am very thankful. I feel she moved people to seek out their passions and live their lives to the fullest, or at least think about new possibilities. She shared with us her greatest joys, her most difficult times, her projects, her every day thoughts. Although I never met Apple, I feel I got to know her better than many people I know in "real life".

I was once told that if you are a very selfish person the moment you die, you cease to exist. If you are a good person those who met you may remember you and talk about you. The truly great people touch the lives of people who never met them and they live on in not only in memory but in adding to the richness of others lives. Apple is clearly one of those great people.
Posted by: DFW

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 05:51 PM

I am relatively new to PW, but read Apple's posts regularly. Apple was truly an amazing lady and loved by so many. I agree that a donation in her memory to a cancer research organization or to the hospice that provided comfort would be a nice idea.

She will be missed!
Posted by: Plowboy

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 06:22 PM

Oh no! I always liked her attitude here, she was kind and encouraging. My sympathies go out to her friends and family.
Posted by: lilylady

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:09 PM

Announcement of funeral service

http://www.amosfamily.com/2013/01/mary-magdalen-bryde-stevermer/
Posted by: Monica K.

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:27 PM

I'm of two minds re: what kind of memorial PW might want to put together. I like Steve's idea of pooling donation for a piano to be given to a deserving student; I think it's a cause apple* would have dearly loved.

But I also noticed that the funeral announcement stated that her family was suggesting memorial contributions to go to a fund for her children's college educations... and that is a very important and deserving cause, too.
Posted by: Ariel

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:39 PM

Originally Posted By: Steve Cohen
She will be missed....

How about chipping in to give some deserving player a new piano in Apple's memory. I'd be willing to arrange to provide the piano at cost anywhere in the US and chip in $500.


That's a very generous offer, Steve and it appeals to me too. Everyone who cares about piano playing has at some time, thought about what a shame it is that talented potential young players are often unable to follow through because of the expense of an instrument.

I never forgot meeting a young graduate student at our local university who was standing behind my ten year old son as we waited to attend a concert. He commented sadly that he would never be able to play as well as he could, because his family had been unable to allow him to begin his piano studies at a young age (my son, very talented, began at age six).

I am sure this cause would be dear to Mary's heart.
I find myself in a quandary, though, since her family (I guess, her husband) has clearly expressed a preference for donations to his children's college fund.

I am kind of wondering whether Mary only "belongs" to her family...Swallowed up in such a fund, I don't see any way that we are commemorating Mary as an individual.
Posted by: Ariel

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:43 PM

Originally Posted By: Minnesota Marty
Hi Rich,

I also feel that a memorial for Apple, from the membership at PW, would be most appropriate. She was an extrodinary member and a friend to all.

Are you thinking in terms of a scholarship or maybe a living memorial such as a tree? I'm sure that there will be many ideas brought forth.

Thank you for suggesting this idea.

Again, I agree with this sentiment and approve this idea. OTOH I feel it would be appropriate to also appeal to other fora she participated in and cared about: TNCR, WTF and BCO (for Breast Cancer) and FaceBook. All these online presences dear to her, are currently full of caring, bereft friends many of whom I'm sure want to "do something".

Perhaps we could leave it up to them, whether they wanted to contribute to a piano fund or her children's college fund.
Posted by: piqué

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:48 PM

there's no reason that piano world can't have its own memorium to apple. if friends and family wish to contribute to the childrens' education, i don't think that whatever this forum feels is a fitting honor for her will take away from that.
Posted by: AJF

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:50 PM

What sad news.
Apple was one of the first people to welcome me here. She always added a lightness and kindness to every thread she contributed to.
Rest in peace.
Posted by: Ariel

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:56 PM

Originally Posted By: piqué
there's no reason that piano world can't have its own memorium to apple. if friends and family wish to contribute to the childrens' education, i don't think that whatever this forum feels is a fitting honor for her will take away from that.

No reason, per se, except that there's always the risk that goals will be split and it will be impossible to implement the PW (and?) memorial because of insufficient funds and involvement.

This thread for instance (I realize the Pianist Corner is also open to "Apple" posts now), has gotten only a small fraction of the responses any one of the other four fora have garnered so far.

If the math isn't clear, I'm saying we have here at most 5% of the responses on the other fora put together - granted that there is significant overlap.

Pianos aren't cheap but I think it would be entirely possible to afford one with the whole population behind it (requiring plans about how to go about it). Otherwise, not possible.

Of course, there's also the possibility of paying instead for lessons. Something of this sort was done on WTF (and TNCR"?) for "Wacki Iraqi".
Posted by: Ariel

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 09:58 PM

I'm unable to locate a previous post I wanted to quote - having to do with a so-called "apple award" which would be entirely honorary (for posters) and dedicated to PW alone.

I like that idea too! Sorry I can't find the original suggestion.
Posted by: Minnesota Marty

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 10:04 PM

It would be a big undertaking, but might I suggest the donation of an Estonia to St. Joseph Catholic Church where she was very active.

There are certainly enough dealers at PW who carry Estonia and would certainly be able to help with negotiations directly with Mr. Laul.

It would be a massive effort - A great tribute to a great person.
Posted by: terminaldegree

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 10:16 PM

So sad to read of Apple's passing. I always enjoyed seeing that peculiar, friendly signature.

Peace and condolences to her family and friends.
Posted by: NancyM333

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/12/13 11:38 PM

I am so sad to hear this. She touched people through a medium we can’t always fully understand, and I imagine she will continue to do just that.

Nancy
Posted by: Alex Hernandez

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 01:15 AM

This is very sad news, Apple was always so positive and supportive in every way she could have been to all she encountered here. I am sorry I never met her.

R.I.P. Apple
Posted by: Michael Taylor

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 02:25 AM

My God bless her soul and provide peace to her family.
Posted by: VGrantano

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 08:25 AM

This was in her Obit.

The family suggests memorial contributions be made to The Stevermer Children College Fund, 10901 Johnson Dr., Shawnee, KS 66203.
Posted by: VGrantano

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 08:27 AM

Here is her Obit.


http://www.amosfamily.com/2013/01/mary-magdalen-bryde-stevermer/
Posted by: Roger Ransom

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 12:09 PM

While people's hearts are certainly in the right place, it seems more appropriate to me to adhere to the families wishes and donate to her children. This would directly benefit her family in a meaningful way instead of buying a piano for one of thousands of deserving kids that she never even knew.

It's clearly none of my business what other people want to do but that's just my opinion.
Posted by: piqué

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 03:13 PM

this was more along the lines of what i was thinking of too, amanda. an "apple award" --possibly granted annually for the best beginner's forum and pianist's forum performance. something along those lines. we could come up with a modest prize for the honoree.

to me it's about remembering her, and that doesn't have to be about a lot of money.
Posted by: Piano World

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/13/13 08:21 PM

The family is asking for donations to the fund set up for her children, I think we should all consider starting with that. http://www.pianoworld.com/forum/ubbthreads.php/topics/2013860.html

I'm open to other suggestions, but anything that gets into judging often turns into a slippery slope.
Posted by: Piano*Dad

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 09:01 AM

It's possible to walk several paths.

Helping her family and her children is certainly a good path to walk. And it's also an easy path. It involves writing one check and you're done.

Memorializing, however, is often about keeping a person's memory alive among a group who knew her, and using that memorial to tell others who never knew her what she was like. That's the harder path.

To do it you must build something permanent, which becomes the mechanism of remembrance. Creating that mechanism involves overcoming the "large committee" problem of too many ideas and no process for selecting among them. Every idea for remembering Apple at PW will mean some work for some people, and possibly some judgments. And every possible idea someone lays out will clearly have a potential downside that someone here can imagine (and will articulate at length in a thread like this). Coming to a decision this way is virtually impossible.

If people want to work on a specifically PW memorial, I would suggest that Frank delegate the responsibility of chewing on a bunch of ideas to a small committee. That committee could get open feedback from the board using a thread like this. But at some point, the group should go into private session to evaluate the goals, options, resources, and risks. After weighing the alternatives, come back to us with a decision and a plan.
Posted by: ShiroKuro

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 09:41 AM

Piano*Dad, thank you for your thoughtful comments. I will be donating to the family. Unfortunately I am not able to commit time to organizing something at PW, although if others are able to do something I would like to support that as well.
Posted by: Rich Galassini

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 10:35 AM

Originally Posted By: Piano*Dad
It's possible to walk several paths.

Helping her family and her children is certainly a good path to walk. And it's also an easy path. It involves writing one check and you're done.

Memorializing, however, is often about keeping a person's memory alive among a group who knew her, and using that memorial to tell others who never knew her what she was like. That's the harder path.

To to it you must build something permanent, which becomes the mechanism of remembrance. Creating that mechanism involves overcoming the "large committee" problem of too many ideas and no process for selecting among them. Every idea for remembering Apple at PW will mean some work for some people, and possibly some judgments. And every possible idea someone lays out will clearly have a potential downside that someone here can imagine (and will articulate at length in a thread like this). Coming to a decision this way is virtually impossible.

If people want to work on a specifically PW memorial, I would suggest that Frank delegate the responsibility of chewing on a bunch of ideas to a small committee. That committee could get open feedback from the board using a thread like this. But at some point, the group should go into private session to evaluate the goals, options, resources, and risks. After weighing the alternatives, come back to us with a decision and a plan.


Bravo P*D!

I will be giving directly to the family, but I would be happy to be involved in any memorial committee, if Frank chooses to go that route.

Many good ideas have been thrown out there. Thank you all who have responded. Although I never met apple* in person, we spoke by phone countless times and I consider her a friend.

(She might have considered me a stalker wink )
Posted by: piqué

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 11:25 AM

excellent post, PD.

while i do not have the time right now to be involved in bringing a plan to fruition, i do have an idea to throw out in the wake of frank's thoughtful concerns about judging a competition.

how about ....

every year on apple's birthday (in may), we have a celebration of her life (could be called "apple day") by posting musical tributes to her. these can be recordings of original compositions or recordings of a piece we have finally mastered well enough to perform. it could be a day we look forward to and prepare for all year and an inducement to work harder at the piano and on our music. and it will hopefully inspire others to immerse themselves ever more deeply in the piano.

just one idea which others may wish to expand on or discard, as they see fit...
Posted by: Roger Ransom

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 02:27 PM

Pique's idea is excellent. Everyone could participate or not.

Forming committees - who would be on it? How would they be selected (members here the longest? The most posts? The loudest? The biggest ego's? The newest members? The least known members? - who knows) Sounds like a quagmire to me. They would then decide what the rest of us should participate in? I'll bet there are already folks planning to be on said committee.

It would not be something I would participate in, in any way.
Posted by: Ariel

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 04:52 PM

I guess it makes sense to regroup as described, so that we could both (as so desired) contribute to the family's college fund AND work for a memorial on PW - largely honorary and piano/forum focused.

The absence of volunteers to help with the latter, is notable. Perhaps piano players, especially non-professionals, are by nature jealous of their time - already being challenged to squeeze in practice.

Ah, for some dedicated committee women (men) types!
Posted by: Piano*Dad

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 05:26 PM

Rich Galassini has already volunteered.

Ultimately, if a committee is to be formed somebody has to set it in motion, and the obvious choice is the moderators and Frank. The moderators administer and Frank owns. I think that group could delegate responsibly to a small set of stakeholders here.

To Roger's point, the number of volunteers is likely to be small, and the owner of the site (as I mentioned above) is a good choice for laying on of hands. Without an appointed group, most likely we will wind up with the loudest and most persistent voices getting their way. Either that or we'll get nothing at all done while everyone says "after you." I do not understand this fear of forming a committee.
Posted by: Woody-Woodruff

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 06:06 PM

If selected for a panel or commmitee I can be available some evenings during the week and on weekends.

Thanks,
Woody
Posted by: I. Bruton

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 06:13 PM

wow...I've been away for so long and I come back to this news! I'm so sorry to hear. I remember apple was always a warm soul here on PW. My condolences to her family.
Posted by: Minnesota Marty

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 06:20 PM

I'm willing to volunteer.
Posted by: Woody-Woodruff

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/14/13 07:43 PM

And Marty makes three......

Thanks,
Woody
Posted by: Steve Cohen

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/15/13 08:27 AM

I'm in if needed.
Posted by: Minnesota Marty

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/15/13 09:05 AM

It is starting to come together. Excellent!

Thanks Steve.
Posted by: lilylady

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/15/13 09:11 AM

Memorial Music for today
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Mary's Music Memorial Tues morning - virtual online.

I thought this might be a way of our being closer during Mary's Memorial Service. It would be powerful if many of us could be listening at the same time. Or at any time during the day, Tues.

With respect:

In lieu of the ability of most of us to attend Mary's service live, perhaps we can do a service online... Virtual is how many of us knew and loved her. That way we, as her online family, can partake. Together.

I do believe that her timezone is one hour different from ours on the east coast and you probably know your time difference. Her service is at 10 am Tues.

Music In Memorial:

Some music could be her beloved Bach.

One that Trucker - Big John shared on her FB page. Bach with Virgil Fox † 'Come Sweet Death' † Wanamaker Organ.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xje4OYalB5Q


And another Bach shared by Jim / Palindrome. JSB signed it 'Glory to God' ( Soli Deo Gloria )
J.S. Bach - Mass B minor BWV 232 - Agnus Dei / Dona nobis pacem


https://www.youtube.com/watch?...bedded&v=lzFoZftMcU4



One of Mary's Favorites
Sibelius (from Finlandia) 'Be Still My Soul'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FASG0h6-5XQ



then, Te Amamus; Requiescat In Pace written in her honor by Axtremus

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ehpccoQRvoU


and Rich Galassini's impromptu contribution, 'Under the Shadow of Your Wings I Will Find a Resting Place'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LePrcOi3mQg&feature=youtu.be


Then to celebrate her life we could listen to Mary's recordings:

Pacabel's 'Fantasia'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?...dded&v=qr_sl_UJdKE#!


from Bach's Goldberg Variations

https://www.youtube.com/watch?...bedded&v=rG1f6678ka0


"Comptine d'un autre été, l'après-midi"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?...bedded&v=gsXQAhe8uYY



You will always be a part of us, Mary.
Posted by: Piano*Dad

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/15/13 06:26 PM

Rich, your PM box is full. Call me.
Posted by: AJB

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/16/13 01:23 PM

I have not logged into Piano World for a long time ....and when I do, on some whim, the first thing I see is this. Quite shocking.

Apple was very welcoming to me when I joined here ages ago and I am very sad indeed to hear of her passing.

Adrian
Posted by: Woody-Woodruff

Re: Our friend Apple - 01/18/13 06:04 PM

Bump