Unfortunately, today's parents often want to protect their children from frustration and failure because they attach their own egos to their child's success and happiness. As a public high school teacher I find it extremely frustrating when a parent argues with me or my administration when their baby(?) is held accountable for poor decisions.
You wouldn't believe some of the arguments I've heard:
"You can't give
my a child a C, I work for "famous software company name".)
Weeping teen (16 years old) in the middle of a tantrum: "But I wanted an A!" Teacher: "But you earned a C". "But I wanted an A!"
Teacher: Sorry those are the published rules and consequences." Teen: "But I forgot. I should get another chance."
In my very heated opinion, this kind of behavior is caused by parents who give their child whatever it takes to make them happy. They want to be their child's friend and not their parent. I'm often the first person to actually hold their child accountable! It's not a fun position to be in.
My theory about kids who come to school to shoot people is that these kids have have been protected from frustration by overly doting parents. When someone finally draws the line in the sand, often a teacher, they haven't developed the skills to handle it. If only parents would hold their kids accountable and would mete out appropriate consequences at an early age, children would learn how to deal with frustration in a healthy way.
Sorry about the tirade. If you, as a piano teacher, can help a child face and conquer frustration, you are doing yourself, the child and society a huge favor.
I will now shut up before I burst an artery!